The Boy is Mine!
Have you ever wondered what would happen if you ran into your current lover’s ex? Would you go all Love & Hip Hop on them? Would you be ratchet and rude? Would you punch them in the face?
Unfortunately, I can honestly say, that used to be me! I would be the one giving dirty looks, making insulting comments and basically acting like a total b****. Any female who had any type of relations with my man were liable to be disrespected. I’ve had the Myspace beefs, the face to face altercations, and even came pretty close to slapping a few girls.
And then it happened……
I finally came in contact with his ex-girlfriend. After allllll of these years that we’ve been together, I have never shared the same room with this girl. And yet the start of 2017, the year that I plan to build a future with him I run into his past. As he claimed “The Universe wanted me to let it go.” But the fact is….there’s nothing to let go. I’m at a place where I don’t care about those things anymore.
I don’t care who he’s dated, I don’t care who he’s been in a relationship with and I don’t care who he’s slept with. I don’t care so much that I continued to politely provide this woman a service that she needed help with, without inquiring if she even knew him.
Had I not done that, I feel like the conversation would’ve sounded like this:
“Excuse me. Can I please talk to you for a minute?
Uh huh, sure. You know, you look kinda familiar
Yeah, you do too... but um, I just wanted to know, do you know somebody named... you know his name
Oh yeah, definitely. I know his name
I just want to let you know that he's mine”
I just wish REALity tv would show females how to handle these situations how I did. You don’t have to fuss and fight with the other woman, nor do you have to be “so nasty and so rude” to your man’s ex. As you know one of my guilty pleasures is watching ratchet reality tv (I know, I know, it’s killing my brain cells). One show that is pissing me off currently is Love and Hip-Hop New York. Why are Mendecees’ baby mommas coming for my girl Yannndyyyy? I get that children are involved so it makes the situation totally different, BUT why are these women so pressed to dig into their relationship? Why are they trying to find ways to tear down the current woman? If you are truly over someone, be over them! Do not be that sour ex still in love with someone else’s man, and do not be that current woman still jealous over your man’s ex!!
At the end of the day, if you are reading this, you are a part of the Regal Lady Squad! We are not the Bad Girls Club!!
If you should ever bump into your man’s ex, remember, stay classy, confident & compelling…
Unless she tries one of these…..
Then you may have to go from regal to ratchet real quick! lol